Party Behavior

As a policy, the organizers of this discord do not host any “official” DC, Virginia, or Maryland spanking parties. However, we publish our party behavior standards in the interest of promoting safety among our members at any event they may attend. To learn about how to find parties, visit our FAQ page.

When a scene is happening in public, avoid interjecting comments unless pre-negotiated with the players or a dynamic or friendship is established.
Closed door = I want privacy for a scene. Knock if you need something before entering.
Do not jump into a scene without first talking and negotiating with the players involved, even if you’ve played with the person earlier in the night.
Accept when you get told “no” in response to requesting play. Respect the decline. Saying no could look like
“No,”
“I’m not feeling the vibe,”
“Maybe later if there’s time,”
“Let me think about it.”
If you’re feeling upset or hurt by rejection, remember, anyone can give, not give, or withdraw consent at any time. This includes while negotiating. Take that rejection as a way to reflect on your compatibility with potential play partners.
Respect ALL safe words.
Before taking any photos, make sure everyone has consented to be in it, including folks in the background.
Before posting or tagging anyone in a picture on social media (fetlife, twitter, instagram, etc) involving spanking or otherwise, be sure to get their explicit consent.

Learn about our online behavior standards.

Learn about our munch behavior standards.